Everything Is Always Working Out for Me
I said it so many times I stopped believing it.
"Everything is always working out for me." Over and over. For years. And for a long time, I was basically just lying to myself on purpose and hoping it would eventually stick.
And you know what? It did. It does.
The Friday before my birthday is a perfect example of how this plays out in small ways in my daily life.
The Friday Before My Birthday
I had two things on my calendar: a podcast pre-call and a podcast interview. That's it. I'd booked them two months in advance knowing the day was clear. Simple enough.
Except in the weeks leading up, the day got complicated. My driver's license was expiring on my birthday (a Saturday), so I had to get it done before. Health card too. Passport photos. And I'd decided I also wanted to go shopping because it was my birthday and I wanted to show up to my party looking good. So now I had a list.
The podcast interview was easy to reschedule. The pre-call? Not so much. It sat smack in the middle of the day, and when I went to look for another time, the host had no openings until June. I made peace with it. Fine. I'll make it work.
So I went to get my driver's license first thing. I pulled up expecting the usual hour-plus wait. There was a line out the door when I arrived. I almost turned around.
By the time I parked and walked inside, the line had moved in. Three staff members. Fast. I was out in under ten minutes. Driver's license. Health card. Done.
My husband was with me. He thought I was adorable, how giddy I was walking back to the car. I didn't care. That was genuinely not what I expected.
Next, I needed make-up. And because I don’t wear much, I needed help. Since we were already out, and it was still early, we ran to the drugstore instead of heading to the mall. I ended up finding the a woman at the makeup counter who was the most delightful human. She fussed over my skin, helped me find exactly what I needed. It was the most pleasant experience.
While we were there I thought, I have makeup on, I look good, let me just get the passport photo now too.
Checked that off the list.
Then we swung by the grocery store. Its a big store and they have a little clothing section, and often time theres some cute stuff. (I know that sounds like a long shot.) And guess what, I found a dress! My style, my size, good price. I didn't even try it on. Just grabbed it and figured I'd return it if it didn't fit.
It fit perfectly.
I got home with time to spare before the pre-call. Got settled. Sat down at my desk.
She didn't show.
My first reaction? Slightly annoyed. But only for a second. Because then I caught myself mid-thought and started laughing. This is literally exactly what you wanted. You didn't want that call. You were feeling introverted. You had more things you wanted to do at home. And now you have the rest of the afternoon.
Everything worked out. Exactly as I'd said it would.
The Client Who Was Also Behind
That same weekend, I had a client to think about. I'd been behind on her program materials because of birthday prep and everything that comes with life. I reached out and told her I needed more time, that I'd push delivery to the following Monday.
She wrote back and told me she'd had a rough couple of weeks. She hadn't touched the materials I'd already sent. She was just now getting her head back in the game and was relieved to have more time.
She literally said to me, "This is kind of aligned timing."
Neither of us needed to stress. We'd been running parallel to each other the whole time, both moving at the pace that actually made sense, without knowing it. The delay wasn't a problem. It was the point.
The Practice
I'm not going to tell you this is easy. Reframing your circumstances takes practice, especially when the circumstances are heavy. It's easy to say everything's working out when a podcast host doesn't show up. It's harder when you're dealing with loss, or fear, or the weight of something that actually hurts.
But here's what I know: the perspective shift is always available. Maybe not immediately. Maybe it takes time to find it. But as long as you're still here, there's always another way to look at it.
And the more you practice that, the faster you find it.
I've been telling myself "everything is always working out for me" for years. Some days, I believed it. Some days I didn't. But I kept saying it anyway. And now I'm constantly surprised at how true it turns out to be.
It feels like magic. But really, it’s a trained way of seeing.
What's Next?
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About the Author:
Matalya Onuoha is a Human Design Strategist and Clarity-to-Prosperity Guide for Women & Teams. She helps women transform confusion into clarity and purpose into prosperity using Human Design, NLP, and somatic techniques. Host of the Worthy of Wealth podcast.
