I Am Who I Am. And That Is Enough.
It wasn't one big thing. It never is.
It was two weeks of small things stacking up. Minor moments that shouldn't have mattered as much as they did, but each one had me stepping outside of myself, looking around, wondering: Am I doing this right? Am I giving enough? Am I being who I'm supposed to be here?
The shoulds crept in quietly. They always do.
And then, somewhere in the middle of one of those moments, this phrase landed:
I am who I am. And that is enough.
I don't even know where I heard it first. But the second it moved through me, I felt my body exhale. Like I'd been holding something I didn't realize I was carrying.
That's the thing about external validation. You don't always notice when you're searching for it. It disguises itself as self-improvement, as caring what people think, as trying harder. And you keep reaching outside yourself for some signal that you're on track.
But that signal never fully satisfies. Because it's coming from the wrong place.
Reminding yourself I am who I am, and that is enough isn't giving up or settling. It's pulling yourself back to center. It's the reset.
You are allowed to rest. To pause. To do things your way instead of the expected, anticipated way. To follow the path that actually feels like yours instead of the one you think you should be on.
Who you are right now, in this moment, is enough. Not the more polished version of you. Not the version who has it all figured out. This version. The one reading this.
Stand on your timeline for a second. Look back.
You can see the growth. The evolution. The places where you are so different from who you were even a few years ago. And maybe you can't label all of it as good or bad, because it's neither, not really. It just is what it is.
You are who you are. And who you are keeps becoming more. Every day you take one step in alignment with your higher self, you're moving toward the next version. But that doesn't make the current version insufficient.
Both things are true. You are growing. And you are enough right now.
The affirmation isn't the point. The shift underneath it is.
When you feel yourself reaching for outside validation, for reassurance, for permission, try saying it instead: I am who I am, and that is enough. Notice what moves in your body when you do.
That's the signal you were looking for.
What's Next?
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About the Author:
Matalya Onuoha is a Human Design Strategist and Clarity-to-Prosperity Guide for Women & Teams. She helps women transform confusion into clarity and purpose into prosperity using Human Design, NLP, and somatic techniques. Host of the Worthy of Wealth podcast.
