Why Your Marketing Feels Like Pushing a Boulder Uphill (And What to Do About It)
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You've taken the courses. You've studied the successful people in your industry. You've learned the formulas, the posting schedules, the engagement strategies.
You're doing exactly what they told you to do. Five posts a week, stories three times a day. Authority posts on Monday, educational content on Wednesday, promotional on Friday.
And you're getting... nothing.
Your follower count might be growing, but those followers aren't turning into clients. The likes don't translate into dollars, and the engagement doesn't equal growth.
Meanwhile, you're exhausted and burnt out, wondering why this works for everyone else but not for you.
What if I told you it's not because you're doing it wrong? What if the problem is that you're following a strategy that was never designed for your energy in the first place?
The Problem with One-Size-Fits-All Marketing
Most marketing advice out there is strategic, tactical, and very specific. Post consistently. Stay top of mind. Test your content. Show up every single day.
That advice works beautifully if you have the sustainable energy to execute it. It works if you're a Generator or Manifesting Generator with a defined sacral center that can power through consistent action.
They're 70% of the population, so it makes sense that most marketing strategies are built for them.
But if you're a Projector, Manifester, or Reflector, you're going to burn out long before you see results. You'll follow the formula perfectly and still feel like you're failing.
I know this intimately. I spent months posting five days a week because that's what the course told me to do. I created the right types of content on the right days. I made reels when everyone said reels were the algorithm hack. I commented on other people's posts to be visible. I sent DMs to new followers to start conversations.
My Instagram account grew from 50 to 1,500 followers in about six months. I was proud of that number.
But none of those followers were becoming clients. Nobody was reaching out to work with me. All that effort, all that energy, all that time spent creating content and showing up and trying to do it right, and I had nothing to show for it except exhaustion and frustration.
When I Learned I Was a Projector
Learning about Human Design changed everything, though it didn't click immediately. It took me a few months to really understand what it meant to be a Projector and how to apply that knowledge to my business.
Projectors aren't designed to hustle. We're meant to work about three hours a day. We're not here to initiate or chase people down.
I tried adjusting my marketing to be more "Projector-friendly." I batched my content when I had energy. I attempted to post less frequently.
But something still felt off. Social media never felt genuine to me. I always felt like I was initiating, like I was trying to convince people to see me and my value. I was working against my design, not with it.
So I stopped. I closed my Instagram account, made it private, deleted everything, and started fresh. I kept a presence so people could find me when they searched, but I stopped posting with any consistency. I stopped chasing engagement. I stopped doing anything strategic on Instagram.
And you know what happened? My business actually started growing.
What Aligned Marketing Actually Looks Like
The strategies I was following weren't wrong. They just weren't designed for alignment.
Traditional marketing is built around consistency, frequency, and showing up constantly to stay top of mind and prove to the algorithm that you're serious.
When you're building from alignment, you're not trying to convince anyone of anything. You're not worried about strict schedules just for the sake of consistency. You're positioning yourself by showing up as yourself and sharing your truth with the world. The right people align and find you.
How Each Type Should Approach Marketing
Generators
You're designed to respond and then create. You have the energy to show up consistently, but only when it genuinely lights you up.
Notice what content ideas make your sacral say "hell yes." Create content about those things, not what your content calendar says you should post. If your sacral says no to a content idea or speaking event, don't force it.
Your key indicator is satisfaction. If your marketing feels draining, you're doing it wrong. If it feels energizing, you're on the right track.
Manifesting Generators
You're designed to respond and then move quickly. You have the energy for consistent action, but you need variety and the freedom to pivot.
Pay attention to what excites your sacral and gives you that "yes" response. You might start with one marketing approach and shift to something completely different when it stops feeling good. That's your genius, not inconsistency.
Test different formats, platforms, and styles. When something lights you up, go all in. When it doesn't, move on. Your marketing should feel energizing and dynamic, not formulaic.
Projectors
Your marketing strategy is visibility without chasing. You thrive on recognition, not initiation.
Be clear and magnetic about what you see and offer. Share your insights when you have them, not on a forced schedule. Wait for people to reach out and invite you into their world, or accept the right invitations.
When the right people find you, they immediately recognize your value. Quality over quantity. Depth over frequency.
Manifestors
You're designed to initiate and inform. Make bold initiations when you have something to say. Communicate clearly about what you're creating and why.
When you get an impulse to create or share, act on it. Inform your audience when you feel like it, not on a strict schedule. Your impact comes from your initiations themselves, not from posting frequency.
Reflectors
You're designed to sample and share. Your marketing should be based on what you're sampling and reflecting.
Lunar cycles work beautifully for you. Post once or twice a month, aligned with lunar patterns. Share what you're noticing about your industry, your clients, your journey.
Give yourself permission to be inconsistent. Share when you have something you've truly sampled and integrated. Your unique perspective is your marketing.
What Shifts When You Stop Chasing and Start Attracting
When you market from alignment instead of desperation, everything changes.
I went from stressing about posting on the right days, missing posts and planning to do better next week, batching content, finding time for done-for-you templates, and forcing myself to build relationships with people online.
Now I love workshops because I build relationships naturally within the two-hour event. My workshops aren't two hours of pure content. I could teach the topic in an hour, maybe an hour and a half. But we talk. I tell stories. People ask questions. We learn about each other.
When you're attracting, your energy feels like sharing. You genuinely give insights and value that you have to offer. You build relationships organically with people who are actually aligned with you. You're clear and confident in what you offer without needing to convince anyone.
The shift happens when you stop trying to be for everyone and get crystal clear on who you're for and why you're here. When you speak directly to your people with clarity and confidence, you become magnetic.
Making Your Marketing Work for You
If you want to use social media, create content from overflow, not depletion. Share what you've personally experienced, learned, or what's happened within your environment.
Be specific about who you're talking to. Your business isn't for everyone. It's for a very specific person.
I never did well with those "visualize your ideal client" exercises. But by getting out into the world, I've met my ideal client so many times. I know who she is now.
For content frequency, Generators and Manifesting Generators can post consistently if it lights them up. Projectors can post two to three times a week if they want to, or once a month. Manifestors and Reflectors post when inspired, maybe twice a week or twice a month. Reflectors should align with lunar cycles.
This frequency guidance is only if you want to post on social media. You can follow what I do and not post at all. Grow your business through other external marketing methods that honestly work better when you're a small business, and nobody knows who you are yet.
What Aligned Marketing Creates
When you market from alignment, three things happen.
First, you attract people who are already ready. You're not taking them through long funnel cycles. The people who find you already recognize the value you offer. They're pre-qualified by your energy and your message.
Second, marketing becomes sustainable. You're not burning out trying to keep up with someone else's content calendar or showing up in ways that don't work for you.
Third, your business grows from a place of integrity. You're building a client base of people who genuinely resonate with you. You're upfront, you're honest, and it feels good to share, to grow, to welcome people into your space.
Know that you might grow slower when you market from alignment. My brother and I both figured out our processes at the same time. He's a Generator doing Generator things online, and he's incredibly successful. He grew so much faster than me.
I look at him and feel a tiny bit jealous, but I'm mostly just proud of him. I know I'm building something sustainable too. My path is just different. My process is different. It's slower. I've accepted that it means I'm not killing myself in the process, and I can enjoy my life and my family along the way.
If you need something that allows more spaciousness and freedom, it might take longer. You might have quiet months, quiet weeks. You might feel like nothing's happening while you watch other people blow up.
That's okay. You're not just building a business. You're building a sustainable practice that honors who you are. You're creating a client base of people who truly see you and want to work with you for the right reasons.
Fast growth isn't always aligned. Aligned growth, even when it's slower, creates something lasting.
Trust your pace. Trust your process. Trust that the right people will find you exactly when they're meant to.
Try This: Your Integration Exercise
Audit your current marketing through the lens of your Human Design type.
Are you marketing from chasing energy or from attracting energy? Is your content frequency honoring your energy type? Are you trying to convince people, or are you attracting people who recognize your value?
Make one shift this week toward a more aligned marketing strategy. Just one.
If you're posting constantly online and finding it draining, take a break or post less. Change your content style. Post what feels good in the moment.
If social media isn't for you at all, find a publication you can contribute to. Start your own podcast. Make it a video podcast if you want to be seen on YouTube.
Whatever feels good to you, try it. Just go with what feels good.
What's Possible on the Other Side
Marketing doesn't have to feel gross. When you understand your Human Design and market from alignment, you attract the right people without the shoulds, without feeling drained, without the ick, without hustling.
Everything happens in accordance with your design at the right pace.
If you're ready to build a business that works with your energy instead of against it, I invite you to book a discovery call. We can talk about how to turn your purpose into profit without following someone else's blueprint.
Or take my What's Blocking Your Prosperity quiz to get insight into where you are right now on your journey and what your next aligned step is.
You're worth it. You are inherently worth it.
Listen to the Full Episode
In this episode of Worthy of Wealth, I share my full story of burning out on social media and finding my aligned marketing strategy as a Projector.
You'll hear:
My experience posting five days a week and getting zero clients
How I grew from 50 to 1,500 followers while making only $100 in two years
What changed when I stopped posting and started speaking at summits
Specific marketing strategies for each Human Design type
Why traditional marketing advice ignores energetic diversity
How to audit your current marketing and make one aligned shift
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About the Author:
Matalya Onuoha is a Human Design Strategist and Clarity-to-Prosperity Guide for Women & Teams. She helps women transform confusion into clarity and purpose into prosperity using Human Design, NLP, and somatic techniques. Host of the Worthy of Wealth podcast.
