Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself
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But Matalya, how do I know what's actually right for me?
I second-guess everything!
Okay, if this is you raising your hand right now, I see you. And here's what I want you to know: You're not broken. You're not indecisive. You've just been using the wrong decision-making system for how you're actually designed.
Here's the thing nobody tells you - we've all been conditioned to make decisions with our minds. Think it through, analyze every angle, make a pros and cons list. But what if I told you that you came into this world with a built-in decision-making system that's way more reliable than your spinning thoughts?
In Human Design, we call this your Authority. Think of it like having a personal GPS for your life - but you actually have to know how to use it.
What Your Authority Really Is
Your Authority is basically your body's way of telling you what's aligned for you. It's not that generic "trust your gut" advice (though that's part of it for some people). It's specific to how YOU are designed to make decisions that actually work.
The thing is, your Authority lives in your body, not your head. Wild concept, right?
The 7 Types of Authority (Which One Are You?)
There are seven different ways your body can guide your decisions. As you read these, notice which one makes you go "Oh shoot, that's totally me!"… then go run your chart and confirm it!
Emotional Authority (about half of us): You need to wait it out. There's literally no truth in the now for you - you've got to ride that emotional wave from excitement to "meh" to clarity before deciding anything big. If you’re feeling like it’s a maybe, then it’s really a no.
Sacral Authority: Your gut goes "uh-huh" (yes) or "unh-uh" (no) immediately. That first response? Usually spot on.
Splenic Authority: You get this quiet knowing in the moment. It's subtle - like "I just know" but you can't explain why. First instinct is key here.
Self-Projected Authority: You need to talk it out - not for advice, but to hear what YOU actually say. Your own voice tells you the truth.
Ego/Heart Authority (pretty rare): Simple - what do you actually want? What's in it for you? Follow your desires, not what you think you should want.
Mental Authority: Talk it through with people you trust. They're not giving you answers - they're helping you find yours.
Lunar Authority (Reflectors only): Wait a full month (seriously). You need time to feel it out in different environments.
How to Actually Start Using This
Start small: Practice with tiny decisions first. What to have for lunch, which route to take home. Build that trust muscle gradually.
Get curious about your signals: How does your specific Authority actually feel in your body? Start paying attention.
Be patient with yourself: You're literally rewiring years of "let me think about this" conditioning. It takes time.
Why This Changes Everything
When you start making decisions from your Authority instead of your overthinking mind:
You stop second-guessing everything because you actually trust your process
Your energy gets better because aligned decisions feel sustainable
Life starts feeling easier - like you're finally swimming with the current instead of against it
Ready to Dive Deeper?
Understanding your Authority is just the beginning. Your complete Human Design blueprint shows you exactly how you're designed to make decisions, use your energy, and create a life that actually works.
In "Living On Purpose," we go deep into:
Your full Human Design chart and how to use it
Making major life decisions with confidence
Creating alignment in your life’s purpose, career, and relationships
Try This Week
Figure out your Authority type from the list above
Pick one small decision to practice with
Notice what happens in your body when you use it
Listen, your Authority isn't something you need to earn or develop. You literally came into this world with it. You just need to remember how to listen to it.
And here's the real truth: Every single time you honor your Authority, you're choosing alignment over approval. That's where your actual power lives.
