Why Your Nervous System Sabotages Your Decisions (And How to Fix It)
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You know what you need to do.
Your gut is telling you. Your Human Design Authority is clear. Every sign is pointing in one direction. But when it comes time to actually make the decision? You freeze.
You research more. You ask for more opinions. You make another pros and cons list. You tell yourself you need "just a little more time."
Sound familiar?
What you need to know
Here's what most people don't understand about decision-making: Your nervous system doesn't care about logic.
It doesn't care that you've done the research, read the reviews, or consulted three business coaches.
All it cares about is: "Will this decision keep me safe?"
And if you've ever made a decision that didn't work out the way you hoped - if you've ever been criticized, disappointed, or hurt by a choice you made - your nervous system remembers.
It will do everything in its power to keep you from experiencing that pain again. Even if it means keeping you stuck.
The Real Cost of a Dysregulated Nervous System
When your nervous system is running the show, you're not making decisions from your inner authority - you're making them from fear.
This shows up as:
Endless research and information gathering
Seeking everyone's opinion (then feeling more confused)
Analysis paralysis
Making decisions quickly just to avoid discomfort, then immediately regretting them
Physical symptoms: tight chest, stomach knots, racing heart
And the exhausting part? Even small decisions start to feel overwhelming when your nervous system is maxed out.
The Integration: Nervous System + Human Design Authority
In this week's episode, I teach you how to regulate your nervous system BEFORE accessing your Human Design Authority.
Because here's the truth: you can't hear your Emotional Authority's wisdom when you're in panic mode. You can't feel your Sacral's "uh-huh" or "unh-uh" when your body is clenched in fear.
Regulation creates the internal space you need to access your wisdom.
Try This: The STOP Technique
Before making any decision this week, practice this simple 4-step technique:
S - Stop what you're doing
T - Take 3 deep breaths (4 counts in, 6 counts out)
O - Observe your body sensations without judgment
P - Proceed from a calmer place
That's it. No fancy equipment. No complicated protocols. Just a pause to let your nervous system know: "We're safe. We can handle this."
Your Nervous System Isn't the Enemy
I want you to know this: your nervous system isn't sabotaging you on purpose. It's trying to protect you.
But protection and growth can't happen at the same time.
Regulation is how you tell your body, "Thank you for trying to keep me safe. But I'm choosing growth now."
Listen to the Full Episode
In Episode 3 of Worthy of Wealth, I go deep into:
Why your nervous system hijacks your decision-making
Multiple regulation techniques for different situations
How to build long-term nervous system resilience
Integrating this work with your specific Human Design Authority
Ready to Dive Deeper?
If you're tired of knowing what you should do but feeling paralyzed when it's time to act, let's work together.
In Living On Purpose, my 10-week private coaching experience, we dive deep into your Human Design AND build your nervous system capacity to actually trust and follow your inner authority.
What regulation technique are you going to try this week? Let me know - I'd love to hear from you.
About the Author:
Matalya Onuoha is a Human Design Strategist and Clarity-to-Prosperity Guide for Women & Teams. She helps women transform confusion into clarity and purpose into prosperity using Human Design, NLP, and somatic techniques. Host of the Worthy of Wealth podcast.
